Now, quality-time-people tend to come across as high-maintenance friends. Why? Because you have to spend tiiiiime with them...and not just Any time but Quality time! Quality time to me is talking about how you are doing, how you feel about things going on in your life, things you're struggling with, things you are learning about yourself, and vice-versa...all that DEEP stuff. Heavy right? Yes, it is heavy but so rewarding. Because it is so heavy, a little goes a long way. I only need that level of dialog every few weeks to keep my love language topped off at full, or every few months for a good maintenance. With David, it's less than that. When he hears me say "So, how are things going at work?" that is my entrance into some Quality discussion time with my very best friend of all time! Thankfully, my closest friends also have a high quality time need, David included. That's his #2 love language. So we all kind of fill each other up!
Okay, so that brings me to this week. Today is Friday. I can not remember a richer week for me in the Love department than this week. And none of it was some over-the-top expression like you hear about...a husband surprising his wife with a huge gift or a trip somewhere. No, nothing like that. Time...just time. That's what it was. It started Tuesday morning when I took the kids to a friend's house (one of my friends in that small circle) to swim in the neighborhood pool. After a couple hours of that, we ended up spending the whole entire afternoon hanging out on her couch while the kids played upstairs. We talked about all kinds of stuff...I can't even remember what...but I remember how it made me feel!
Wednesday evening I went to a different friend's house to spend some good girl time and ended up staying until almost midnight. I love learning new things about my friends...things about their character, hang ups they have, their perspective on situations...and that's what this was. I left feeling like I knew her sooo much better, and that I couldn't wait to do it again.
Thursday was a day I have been waiting on for months. My best friend since childhood (and by childhood, I mean 3rd grade!) came in town. She lives on the east coast so I get to see her about once a year when she comes home to visit family. This time she came without kids or husband...that has never happened! So I carved out an entire day of my week to spend it just with her. We met for breakfast at 8:30 and went from there. We hung out until 6:00 when she finally forced herself to leave because she had standing dinner plans with family. We talked about everything from marriage to TV shows. She told me all kinds of things about her life and friendships she has back east. I told her about my closest friends here and new things in my life. We reminisced about days long ago. Things we wished we'd done differently. Things we got right! Ahhh. So refreshing. What a treat.
In the middle of this on Thursday, my mother-in-law who is keeping my boys calls and asks if they can spend the night. Why, yes they can! So after my east-coast friend leaves, I text my husband the good news. No kids tonight! So we head to dinner at an old Mexican restaurant where we used to eat when we were dating. We talked about finances and plans and checked our Iphones for movie times. We ran a couple errands together and saw a feel-good movie. Can things get better than this?
Yes they can. Turns out my swimming-pool friend is having my boys spend the night at her place tonight (Friday) so that means #2 night with no kids. OMGoodness! So much Quality Time squished into one week and spread across so many friends, I think I might just explode with how loved I feel. When I said I can't remember a richer week in the Love department, that is an understatement! My virtual arms are extending virtual hugs to you all right now. I feel the love, and I love you too!
I am so FULL!
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